Choosing your core values

This is the moment! This is where you get to decide who you are and what you stand for.

So far, you have a list of 10 values and it’s going to feel like an impossible task initially to refine these down further. There is no magic amount for the final number of Life Values, all I suggest is especially if this is a relatively new concept for you, you should have no more than four or five core values, and certainly no more than six. This will be more than enough for you to meaningfully focus on.

Write down your 4-6 core values in your journal or workbook

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My Core Values


Take a few seconds, breathe and just acknowledge what you’ve just achieved. You now have created the beginnings of a solid foundation. I will now share with you my core values, now today. This is where I’m choosing to focus my life energy. When I’m at my very best, living the life I want and being the woman I truly see myself as, I look, feel and act in congruence with all six:

  • Integrity
  • Empathy
  • Creativity
  • Bravery
  • Passion
  • Unconditional Love

This will make you smile… I have my Life Values printed out in huge letters and displayed on my office wall, under the heading:


A few months ago, my 18 year old son came running into my office after hearing his mother screaming: “Get rid of that spider, it’s moving, arggghh, help!” You get the idea. He would say I was hysterical. I would say a little anxious! After collecting this gigantic spider and depositing it through the window, he turned and looked me in the eye, pointed to the wall and said: “I thought you were supposed to be brave!?”
I’m not expecting you to change every single uncomfortable issue in your life with this workbook. But I know that if you challenge yourself and be clear about your chosen Life Values when you are making decisions, it will drive your behaviour for amazing results. You will be more successful, feel happier and be a more engaging person to be around.

It’s important to remember that our Life Values change over time and that you will need to regularly review them. Evaluate if this is who you currently choose to be. Sometimes we focus a huge amount of time and life energy on a core value that isn’t truly who we are right now. The coaching language I use with my clients is about enabling them to view core values as directly related to the strength of their own personal power.